STOP LETTING YOUR PAST RUN THE SHOW.

Your early rules shaped you, and now they’re running your life on autopilot. The beliefs that helped you survive childhood are still driving your perfectionism, anxiety, and burnout as an adult.

Your childhood shaped how you learned to survive, but healing means learning there’s more to you than what you had to be back then.

ABOUT THE BOOK

In Unpacked: How to Detach From the Subconscious Beliefs That Are Sabotaging Your Life, licensed psychotherapist and author Kristen Jacobsen, LCPC pulls back the curtain on how early emotional conditioning quietly dictates your adult behavior. Blending personal reflection with clinical experience, she walks readers through the hidden ways childhood dynamics shape anxiety, burnout, and the relentless pressure to perform.

This book examines how patterns like:

  • Overachieving to prove you’re enough

  • Saying “yes” to keep the peace

  • Shutting down to avoid disappointment

  • Criticizing yourself before anyone else can

…aren’t personality quirks, they’re defense mechanisms your nervous system learned long ago to stay safe.

Whether you’ve spent years in therapy or you’re just starting to question why success still feels hollow, Unpacked helps you:

  • Trace how your subconscious beliefs were formed and reinforced

  • Understand how your body’s stress response became your default mode

  • Spot the emotional “rules” you’re still following without realizing it

  • Learn practical, research-backed tools to rewire those old scripts

Drawing from real client stories and guided exercises, Kristen shows how insight alone isn’t enough, you need integration. Unpacked gives you the tools to stop over-managing symptoms and start healing the roots of them.

If you’re ready to stop running your adult life on childhood programming, this book helps you finally disconnect from the patterns that no longer serve you.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

How the emotional rules you grew up with still influence how you show up, at work, in relationships, and inside your own head.

Why patterns like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or emotional shutdown aren’t personal weaknesses, they’re the protective strategies your younger self once needed to survive.

Straightforward, evidence-based tools to quiet the mental noise, regulate your nervous system, and start living from a sense of trust instead of tension.

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Discover the Power of Eight Practical Exercises

Inside, you'll find practical exercises and tools that will guide you through the process of identifying and understanding your anxiety, developing effective coping strategies, and taking steps toward living a more fulfilling life.

Whether you're experiencing anxiety related to work, relationships, or other aspects of your life, this workbook will provide you with the support and guidance you need to overcome your challenges and thrive.

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What They Are Saying

  • “First, I want to say what a beautiful layout and just really overall light and gorgeous book. It’s very uplifting with the beautiful colors and fonts. It is sometimes hard to motivate those with anxiety and I believe that these details can sometimes boost patients’ moods.

    When working with anxiety, there are a lot of coping skills that are generally recommended by therapists across the board, i.e. deep breathing, grounding, mindful meditation; but what you do is put these skills in a very easy to follow format that flows and makes the work inviting to the patient. I am glad to have it in my “toolkit.”

  • “It’s a great workbook! I got it in the mindful professional bundle.”